This Spirit@Work Card® that I drew changed what I thought was the definition of Intimacy and caused me to look deeply into what it really meant. When I really think about my relationship with the word and what it has meant to me I can see a different side of me. One that I could never figure out, but fits me like a glove. The question now is what do I do with the proper definition, and how does it make my life, and my relationships, better? In a way, this may also change how I look at my childhood. Only time will tell.
The first sentence in the book to deliver a hard upper jab was the following:
Denying our vulnerabilities and avoiding Intimacy with others leads to the greatest poverty the Soul must endure: loneliness.
I have walked my life hand in hand with that sentence. I have spent most of my life feeling lonely. It seems as though I have always felt alone, unwanted, and unloved. Like I didn’t belong.
The sentence immediately following that sentence is:
Revealing our vulnerabilities in intimate, sacred one-on-one conversations is vital for our survival.
There is so much depth to this sentence. I have been living a superficial life. Living the life of Cinderella. A make believe life that allowed for me to not have intimate conversations with anyone. Not even myself.
Because of my disconnect with Intimacy I find that the poem has a very sad tone to it for me. Most of it I can’t relate to. I can aspire to it, but I can’t relate to it. I am going to choose two sentences from the poem. The first is like a prayer to carry me forward in my quest for Intimacy. The second is the simple truth of where I am today. The two sentences are not sequential in the poem … or in my life.
Give me the courage to connect with others in new ways,
To seek a deeper; more meaningful human connection,
To let our Souls meet in wisdom and honesty.
and,
Unconnected, I walk alone.
I don’t want to walk alone anymore. I have never wanted to walk alone.
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